Preparing Your Sons and Daughters to Respond to Aggressive Flirting




Their words

5:3  For the lips of an adulteress drip honey, and her speech is smoother than oil;

6:24  keeping you from the immoral woman, from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.

7:5  they will keep you from the adulteress, from the wayward wife with her seductive words.

7:21  With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him with her smooth talk.

7:18  Come, let's drink deep of love till morning; let's enjoy ourselves with love!

- Hints of love and commitment

- Pours out praise and affirmation

- More than others, compliments and flatters you, ie: "You're so good at that!" "You look so good in that!"


Their gaze

6:25  Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes,

- Stares longingly

- Twinkles and smiles when listening

- Laughs extra-hard at jokes


Their appearance

7:10  Then out came a woman to meet him, dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.

- Groom themselves to capture sexual interest or admiration


Their aggressiveness

7:11  She is loud and defiant, her feet never stay at home;

7:12  now in the street, now in the squares, at every corner she lurks.

7:15  So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and have found you!

- Is "on the make"

- Manages to always be around

- Finds you and sits next to you at church

- Happens to sit by you in the car on the way to youth outings

- Calls with a need as an excuse for a chat

- Goes out of the way to say, "Hi!"


Their touch

7:13  She took hold of him and kissed him and with a brazen face she said:

- Brushes her (young woman) body up against you

- Frequently touches you -- uses any excuse

- during conversations puts his/her hand on leg, grabs your arm, playfully hits your shoulder

- helps you on with your coat

- your new hair cut gives an excuse to touch your head

- Without warning she kisses you

- Asks for a hand up as an excuse to linger and hold onto your hand

- Gives backrubs without asking

- Asks for help with application of suntan lotion

- Jumps (young woman) on your back and asks for a piggy back ride


Their provision for relationship

7:17  I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes and cinnamon.

- boldly declare to you their interest in you

- tell you they want to have a committed relationship with you


Their lack of conscience

30:20  "This is the way of an adulteress: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, 'I've done nothing wrong.'

- justifies impure behavior and attitudes



Adapted from the seminar “Preparing Your Children for Courtship and Marriage”